Communication is everything. But not everyone knows what it takes to be a great communicator. Let’s just, it takes more than words.
Skilled communicators can incite change, influence people, and inspire entire groups. With one speech, they can compel an audience to action. And in the same way, poor communicators can limit their team’s potential.
Communication is key to leading change and reaching goals. If we’re honest, all of us would love to have the ability to be better communicators. After all, who wouldn’t want to inspire their team to greatness?
But it’s not as easy as it looks.
It takes more than charisma and personality to make a great communicator. This article will show you three ways to build your skills and communicate better.
Let’s get started.
#1: Communicate with More than Words.
To be a great communicator, you need to realize that it takes more than words. In many ways, words have little to do with communication. Dr. Albert Mehrabian breaks down communication into specific parts. He suggests that being a skilled communicator is more about what you’re not saying vs. what is coming out of your mouth. He insists that human communication is 7 percent spoken words, 38 percent tone of voice, and 55 percent body language.
Communication is not a performance. It’s about your body language, listening skills, and ability to relate with your employees. This goes far beyond your oration.
Remember, communication is not about presenting the best TED Talk. It’s aligning your body language, tone of voice, and speech to utter the same purpose––it’s a harmonious decision. When you can match these three aspects, you can sway people with your speech and inspire your team because you’re presenting your whole self. This is why it’s essential to be yourself. This leads us to our next point.
#2: Communicate by Being Yourself.
Communication has nothing to do with feeling confident in the spotlight. Some of the most powerful communicators are shy, prefer to stay on the sidelines, and are the first to leave the party and curl up with their cats.
Okay. That last example might have been a stretch, but you get my point.
Michael Jordan, Gwyneth Paltrow, Harrison Ford, Charles Darwin, and David Letterman all consider themselves introverts. However, these individuals are excellent communicators. They can invoke a response, inspire crowds, and motivate audiences to reach further than they thought possible. These influencers make people feel confident because they’re comfortable in their skin.
If you can pair your words, actions, and intentions, then you not only make a great orator. You make a great leader.
Communication is about the ability to inspire everyone in the room. To do that, you need to be comfortable with the person looking back at you in the mirror.
When you can affirm who you are, you gain the ability to communicate from a place of honesty.
#3: Communicate to be Heard.
Communication isn’t able what needs to be said. We all have something to say. But one of the most important things that you can do is figure out the why and the how behind your words.
Think of your message like a passenger in a vehicle. You can’t just stuff 150 clowns into a Toyota and expect it to reach its destination in a timely matter. The same is true for communication. If you have something to say to your team, figure out what vehicle is best to hold the contents and get your point across.
You don’t need to pack a monologue in an email.
The next time you have to communicate your thoughts to your team, ask yourself these three questions:
- Do I have to say this in-person or can I present this via email?
- How can I shorten this message to respect my team’s time?
- If I was the one on the other end of the phone, what would I want to hear?
When you communicate to be heard,you have the opportunity to lift your team, build their self-confidence, and prepare them with the tools that they need to push beyond their insecurities. You don’t have to raise your voice to be heard or sway them with a lengthy speech. If you want to be a better communicator, you need to remember three things: be yourself, speak to be heard, and use more than words.